Setting goals is always a double edged sword. In one respect it's great to have goals as it's something to work towards and achieve, but then they can have the reverse result and when things don't go quite to plan it can make your achievements seem lessened. Just over three years ago I went through a really awful breakup. It really shook the whole foundation of my belief and trust in people. Whilst my future in many respects remained the same, the dissolution of that relationship changed everything completely and meant so many aspects of 'the future' came into question.After a period of wallowing and heartbreak I made myself a promise to say yes to every opportunity that came my way and to actively choose to be positive and happy and that year my New Years resolution was just that, to be happy. I tried to focus on doing well at work and made sure to have lots of plans organised to look forward to. It turned out to be the best thing that could have happened, and that resolution to take chances and to see where things lead meant that I am now in a relationship with a pretty awesome guy, if I do say so myself ;) Setting a general goal to try to focus on the positives may seem wishy washy, but it really made such a difference to my outlook and helped me to stay focused on pursuing a future that would make me happy.
After the referendum though the future has again been plunged into uncertainty, and my faith in the goodness of people has been considerably shaken with the increase of violent rhetoric and actions against anyone who isn't viewed as British (whatever that means). R's options of future work within universities has now come into question as who knows what university funding will be like if we do actually leave the EU. The Museum sector also relies on funding and is often where cuts are made when the government are strapped for cash which means who knows what will happen with my work. The result also made me seriously consider the option of moving away from this country, but I'm not sure if that's even a plausible option with my career sector and skills.
I just want to add that I don't think all Leave voters are racist, people are allowed to have differing views and opinions just as this is mine. The government have let so many people and communities down that it's no surprise that people feel breaking off from the EU is the only option available. It's just a shame that select groups think that their beliefs have been validated by the actions of the past few weeks. Consequently with everything that has been happening post-referendum I think it's even more important to focus on positive thoughts and actions to help and be kind to one another. We can't let hate and fear win.