Keeping It In Perspective
So last week I turned 25 which got me thinking about a number of things, life mostly...ooo deep much. You might want to grab a cuppa or some cake, this is probably going to be a rambling one and even has the random, un-related flower photograph to go with it! As you get older you feel like there's a checklist that everyone has: job- tick, car- tick, house, social life, grown-up shebang- tick, tick tick. Sometimes it can get a little tricky not to compare bits and pieces of your life to your peers. Even in the blogging world everyone says not to compare your blog to others, but I'm pretty sure everyone does from time to time. It can be so easy to fall into the frame of mind where you see people you went to school with who've just got back from incredible holidays, bought a house, got married, had children (whaaa, that one still gets me..) or are in incredible jobs, the list goes on and on. It can become a bit of a downward spiral that ends with you just feeling crap about yourself, probably whilst binge watching Netflix and eating copious amounts of chocolate... no, just me?
I think it's even harder to keep things in perspective and to stop comparing when social media is so in your face all the time. I'm so glad I'm not a teenager now, I can't imagine how tough it must be to go through teen issues whilst having this filter on everything. When every photo you look at is Pinterest-worthy, highly curated with super happy smiling people having a crazy good time it can make it difficult to keep things in perspective.
I don't really have any solutions to this, other then to remind myself that just beyond the lens is a crap-tonne of mess, just like in my photos. Having social media accounts like Socality Barbie also helps, as it pokes fun at all of those highly curated lifestyle photographs and reminds you that, hey, it's not real they're people too!
Keeping things in perspective in relation to social media can be one thing, but comparisons to those real life people you know is another. I think I've gotten a lot better at this and I'm hoping that the older I get that I'll do it even less, we can but hope! When you've had a bad day seeing someones social updates on Facebook can be the last thing you want. I guess the important thing to remember is that they have those days too, and you don't necessarily know what other trials they've had to go through leading up to that point... and it's best to stay clear of Facebook when you're feeling like that.
I don't think I really have a solution to this other then to remind yourself that they get spots and pizza bloat too, and also that wherever you are in life you're still doing really well and as Dory says 'just keep swimming'. I don't think I really came to a conclusion with this, but it's been playing on my mind for a while and just wanted to get it out of my system.
I really liked Catherine's post on pressing pause and taking a moment and does a better job of making a point then my post has.